Q. I am engaged to a man who absolutely adores me but I fear that I will break his heart. Our different upbringings have caused our lifestyles to clash; I find his way of life aggravates me rather than stimulates. I know I have impulsively fallen in love with him but I’m fighting to become my true self and to make a right decision.
A. Firstly, it’s important to point out that going to an astrologer or any other consultant around such a decision is both a time honoured, and a tricky thing to do, especially if we’re wanting someone to tell us what to do. An astrologer in his or her integrity will give you the best of information to be able to make your own decision. A chart can’t replace the wisdom of your heart but if you’re not certain of what your heart is saying, then maybe that’s strong enough reason not to go ahead, at least for the time being...click 'Read More' to continue...
A. Firstly, it’s important to point out that going to an astrologer or any other consultant around such a decision is both a time honoured, and a tricky thing to do, especially if we’re wanting someone to tell us what to do. An astrologer in his or her integrity will give you the best of information to be able to make your own decision. A chart can’t replace the wisdom of your heart but if you’re not certain of what your heart is saying, then maybe that’s strong enough reason not to go ahead, at least for the time being...click 'Read More' to continue...
Secondly, in my ideal world, nobody should even consider getting married until after their Saturn Return at around thirty, because most of us don’t know ourselves well enough to know what kind of relationship is right for us. In truth, becoming our real self is a lifelong process but at 22 you’ve got even less chance, unless you are really in touch.
What your chart does say though, is that your fiancé is a reflection of some pretty tough places inside your own psyche. You are being confronted with those hidden parts of you that are suppressing and controlling, that do bring up significant anger and resentment (Mars in Aries, ruling a 5th House Aries Sun, opposite a 12th House Saturn/Pluto conjunction) On the surface you will appear to be a free spirit, expressive and creative (Jupiter and Uranus conjunct a Sagittarius Ascendant), all of which is true, to a degree, but under the surface lies the opposite. You have attracted this situation in order to become more conscious of these parts and to take responsibility for working with them. It would be all too easy to see them in him, saying that he’s the problem but if you can recognize and work with them, with help, it will not only change the way you see him, it will change your life.
If pushed, I would say wait, do some strong consistent inner work and see where that takes you. Be honest and clear with him because these things take time, while you find out what’s really in your heart.
What your chart does say though, is that your fiancé is a reflection of some pretty tough places inside your own psyche. You are being confronted with those hidden parts of you that are suppressing and controlling, that do bring up significant anger and resentment (Mars in Aries, ruling a 5th House Aries Sun, opposite a 12th House Saturn/Pluto conjunction) On the surface you will appear to be a free spirit, expressive and creative (Jupiter and Uranus conjunct a Sagittarius Ascendant), all of which is true, to a degree, but under the surface lies the opposite. You have attracted this situation in order to become more conscious of these parts and to take responsibility for working with them. It would be all too easy to see them in him, saying that he’s the problem but if you can recognize and work with them, with help, it will not only change the way you see him, it will change your life.
If pushed, I would say wait, do some strong consistent inner work and see where that takes you. Be honest and clear with him because these things take time, while you find out what’s really in your heart.
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