Q. You write about creating healthy relationship but this is seems so far from my own experience that I truly wonder what that would look like for me or how to get there!?
Continued from 'Preparation for Healthy Relationship - Part 1'
Continuing our discussion from last month, there are some other perspectives from astropsychology about relationships, all of which dovetail with many other traditional and alternative points of view.
Fourthly, own your projections, own your 7th House. This house and the Descendent in our charts (the opposite point to our Ascendant) represents long-term, committed relationship in our lives and on the quality of energies we attract and invite into our world from these significant others. These are however as much part of our charts and our inner self as any other part of the wheel, but are less than conscious in us initially and we get magnetized to individuals that resonate with what appears missing in ourselves. If I have Taurus on the Descendent I will automatically get attracted to women who may or may not have Taurus strong in their charts but are strong, earthy, sensual individuals. All well and good but if I don’t claim and re-own this quality of my own nature, then I’m going to need them to not just fulfil that role in my life but to make me feel OK and a bit more whole. This obviously sets up excessive neediness in a relationship and rips me off in terms of claiming my own wholeness...click 'Read More' to continue...
Continued from 'Preparation for Healthy Relationship - Part 1'
Continuing our discussion from last month, there are some other perspectives from astropsychology about relationships, all of which dovetail with many other traditional and alternative points of view.
Fourthly, own your projections, own your 7th House. This house and the Descendent in our charts (the opposite point to our Ascendant) represents long-term, committed relationship in our lives and on the quality of energies we attract and invite into our world from these significant others. These are however as much part of our charts and our inner self as any other part of the wheel, but are less than conscious in us initially and we get magnetized to individuals that resonate with what appears missing in ourselves. If I have Taurus on the Descendent I will automatically get attracted to women who may or may not have Taurus strong in their charts but are strong, earthy, sensual individuals. All well and good but if I don’t claim and re-own this quality of my own nature, then I’m going to need them to not just fulfil that role in my life but to make me feel OK and a bit more whole. This obviously sets up excessive neediness in a relationship and rips me off in terms of claiming my own wholeness...click 'Read More' to continue...
Continuing our discussion from last month, there are some other perspectives from astropsychology about relationships, all of which dovetail with many other traditional and alternative points of view.
Fourthly, own your projections, own your 7th House. This house and the Descendent in our charts (the opposite point to our Ascendant) represents long-term, committed relationship in our lives and on the quality of energies we attract and invite into our world from these significant others. These are however as much part of our charts and our inner self as any other part of the wheel, but are less than conscious in us initially and we get magnetized to individuals that resonate with what appears missing in ourselves. If I have Taurus on the Descendent I will automatically get attracted to women who may or may not have Taurus strong in their charts but are strong, earthy, sensual individuals. All well and good but if I don’t claim and re-own this quality of my own nature, then I’m going to need them to not just fulfil that role in my life but to make me feel OK and a bit more whole. This obviously sets up excessive neediness in a relationship and rips me off in terms of claiming my own wholeness.
Fifthly, you are not in a relationship to heal, fix or be your partner’s therapist! In my work with the Wounded Healer archetype, I come across so many individuals who are innately but unconsciously brilliant healers who have this part of self tangled up in the needs of a “wounded” partner. Whether Chiron in the 7th House or conjunct Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Juno or Psyche, they come into this life with a karmically driven tendency to get over-exposed to and absorbing of, other people’s wounds, usually these parts of mum and dad. And while this is a necessary wounding from the soul’s perspective, the tendency gets transferred onto later partners, felt as some deep, subliminal guilt and an exaggerated sense of responsibility for the pain of others.
Whether the individual expresses this as care-taking, over-protecting the other from their pain or constantly trying to “fix” them, or in some people, keep absorbing their partners wounded energy without ever challenging them, in each case it becomes a form of self-abuse, creates inequality in the relationship and some very murky entanglements that disempower both parties. It is also very convenient for the fixer, as it puts too much focus on the other’s issues in a way that allows the fixer to avoid the necessary confrontation with their own wounding. The best relationships I know are where both individuals have taken deep responsibility for their own healing, which empowers both and gives each other greater emotional freedom in the relationship. It can also turn the karma of the above Chiron positions into one that attracts truly healing relationships and puts each individual the opportunity to claim the fullness of their own inner healer.
Fourthly, own your projections, own your 7th House. This house and the Descendent in our charts (the opposite point to our Ascendant) represents long-term, committed relationship in our lives and on the quality of energies we attract and invite into our world from these significant others. These are however as much part of our charts and our inner self as any other part of the wheel, but are less than conscious in us initially and we get magnetized to individuals that resonate with what appears missing in ourselves. If I have Taurus on the Descendent I will automatically get attracted to women who may or may not have Taurus strong in their charts but are strong, earthy, sensual individuals. All well and good but if I don’t claim and re-own this quality of my own nature, then I’m going to need them to not just fulfil that role in my life but to make me feel OK and a bit more whole. This obviously sets up excessive neediness in a relationship and rips me off in terms of claiming my own wholeness.
Fifthly, you are not in a relationship to heal, fix or be your partner’s therapist! In my work with the Wounded Healer archetype, I come across so many individuals who are innately but unconsciously brilliant healers who have this part of self tangled up in the needs of a “wounded” partner. Whether Chiron in the 7th House or conjunct Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars, Juno or Psyche, they come into this life with a karmically driven tendency to get over-exposed to and absorbing of, other people’s wounds, usually these parts of mum and dad. And while this is a necessary wounding from the soul’s perspective, the tendency gets transferred onto later partners, felt as some deep, subliminal guilt and an exaggerated sense of responsibility for the pain of others.
Whether the individual expresses this as care-taking, over-protecting the other from their pain or constantly trying to “fix” them, or in some people, keep absorbing their partners wounded energy without ever challenging them, in each case it becomes a form of self-abuse, creates inequality in the relationship and some very murky entanglements that disempower both parties. It is also very convenient for the fixer, as it puts too much focus on the other’s issues in a way that allows the fixer to avoid the necessary confrontation with their own wounding. The best relationships I know are where both individuals have taken deep responsibility for their own healing, which empowers both and gives each other greater emotional freedom in the relationship. It can also turn the karma of the above Chiron positions into one that attracts truly healing relationships and puts each individual the opportunity to claim the fullness of their own inner healer.
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