A. We can look at this "every parent's nightmare" through both karmic and psychological lenses, which for me are intricately intertwined, one without the other being incomplete. Firstly, your son's chart has combinations which do represent the likelihood of him attracting such an event, Sun opposition Saturn, Mars conjunct Pluto and Chiron in Scorpio, conjunct the Nadir (I.C.), to name some of them. It describes an individual with a complex mix of great power, wounding and rage, much of which was directly activated at the time of the accident. It does seem so incongruous to describe an innocent, little boy in such terms but this does illuminate some of his primary life issues both as a soul and a person. The accident is part of what we can call the Necessary Wound, part of a complex of experiences (although not necessarily the same)...click 'Read More' below to continue...
This karmic contract, however, also includes some deep psychic entanglements with the wounding of those around him, particularly his parents. All kids are great barometers for what the adults in their world aren't facing, but this goes beyond the average situation. This is part of his Chiron wound, to psychically absorb that which is unhealed in the family system and then to act it out in some way. This is what I believe you are intuiting, that this is somehow an expression of your own wounding, as well as your child's karma. His chart reflects the presence of much unresolved and potentially dangerous rage in both his parents, as part of a larger pattern of emotional denial that can become quite toxic if not released. He will also tend to pick up on a lot of mixed messages about relationships that can be very confusing for him, a reflection of some unusual and at times very murky dynamics between yourself, his father and in people you are close to.
Whatever the case, it's important not to fall into self blame but to take responsibility for your contribution to this equation. Certainly it reflects some ancient contract between you and your child, but he has also provided you with the opportunity to identify some of the biggest blind spots in your own system. By working with this material and deepening your healing process, you not only take some of the psychic weight off him but it will put you in a much greater position to be able to guide him through the struggles he will have expressing his deepest feelings and, with understanding the relationship between his love nature and his anger and power.
Again you are not alone and it’s not totally up to you. Just as he was protected from even worse injuries, there is a lot of grace around both your healing. Blessings for your little man and for his recovery.